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So then came my question: how exactly DO I pray for my future husband? This man that I have never met or have already met but have no clue that he’s “the one”. When my friends ask me to pray for them I know exactly what to pray for, what they are struggling with… but how do I pray for someone when I don’t even really know what is going on in his life at this time? hmm..
I decided that it was time to do what I had to do in order to get answers: talk to God about it, find a good book on that topic, or the typical one… just Google it. So of course, I did all three.
After praying about it I decided that what I needed to do was come up with… “the list”. I know if you’re a guy… those two words just made you very happy. This list though is a little different than the one girls typically create. It has nothing to do with his physical appearance, what his resume looks like, or how exciting his life is at the moment (although those things matter too) but it was more along the lines of what kind of qualities does this man need to have to be a good future husband, father and leader of the home based on God’s Word and what does he need to do to get those qualities if he doesn’t have them already. Then I have to pray for God to work on those things in his life every day.
Of course, it’s not fair to create “the list” for my future husband and have no list for myself. I’m far from perfect (and lucky me) I actually know the things I need to work on daily. I created my own list of qualities that a wife, mother, and “helper” should have and what I need to do to “get there”… and asked God to help me work on those areas in my life too.
As for the book… there are quite a few books out there written for wives who want to pray for their husbands, but not too many written for singles praying for their future husbands. But, I did find a book that is specifically written for this exact topic and they are really encouraging.
And it made me wonder… what’s the point of praying for your future husband before you even meet him? Why can’t you just start praying for him after you have already met him and are planning your wedding?
Before we answer that question we should take a good look at what men are in our world. Men are called to be our spiritual and earthly leaders. They are the backbone of the family, the nation, the body of Christ because God has a special calling upon each one of them and that is to lead the way with their God-given authority. It is men who take leading roles in determining how our nation should be run, how our children should be raised, what our churches should be grounded on. And Satan knows this very well, which is why from a very early age he bombards young boys with things that will stunt their growth in becoming the godly men and role models God created them to be. His plan is to take down these men before they can even rise to be who they are called to be because by making sure these men never rise to be truly God-fearing leaders that they need to be our families, churches, society will be weak along with their leaders.
This isn’t in any way to undermine the role of women in the world, in the church, and in the family. Women also play a significant role in all of these areas. And they also play a significant role in encouraging or discouraging the men in their lives in becoming the godly leaders they are called to be. Satan has his own attacks and schemes against women as well, but he knows that the best way to get to women is to first get to the men in their lives because it is the men in our lives that are our leaders and authority figures.Currently there seems to be a global problem for our present generation of Christian women and it is the unbalanced ratio between God-honoring woman and the males in their lives who aren’t as quick to become the men God called them to be. This leaves many young Christian women asking the question: what are we supposed to do? Sit back and worry about when these men will magically have an epiphany which will make them realize they need to step it up a little? Eat ice-cream while watching chick flicks and waiting for an un-realistic version of Prince Charming to appear in our lives? No. There is something we can do for our future (and present) husbands today and that is to enter into the war zone and fight for them in the one way that we can: pray for them.
Now… what should you pray for exactly?
-His heart
-He will be a God lover
-Patience
-Understanding
-Trust
-Loyalty and faithfulness
-Strength
-Protection
-Intimacy
-“The list”
-Contentment
-Commitment
Whether you’re single or married it’s important to remember the power and importance of praying for the men in our lives. It’s never too early or too late to start and by doing so we will play a vital role in helping them become the leaders for that God wants them to be.
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Pray that your future husdband or husband will safeguard his heart against inappropriate relationships with the opposite sex. Pray that his heart will be pure and undivided in his commitment to you. (Prov. 6:23-24, 26; Rom. 13:14)
Pray that your husband will cultivate strong integrity, and not compromise his convictions. Pray that his testimony will be genuine, that he will be honest in his business dealings, and will never do anything that he needs to hide from others. (Prov. 20:7; 1 Tim. 1:5, 3:7; Eph. 6:10-12)
Pray that your husband will have a humble, teachable spirit and a servant’s heart before the Lord. Pray that he will listen to God and desire to do His will. (Prov. 15:33; Eph. 6:6)
Pray that your husband will yield his sexual drive to the Lord and practice self control. Pray that your sexual intimacy together will be fresh, positive, and a reflection of selfless love. (Prov. 5:15, 18; 1 Cor. 7:3; Song of Solomon 7:10)
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