Deal With Baggage First

God allows us to meet people all the time that are in need of a friend. A lifelong friendship can start with just a kind word or a smile. God Bless. 

Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile.

God has left it entirely up to us to choose our spouse. He gives us wisdom and liberty to make that choice. He has only set one condition for us – that believers marry fellow believers (2 Cor 6:14; 1 Cor 7:39). That’s it. As far as God is concerned, it does not matter whether you marry someone who is fat or thin, short or tall, brown eyed or blue eyed. It doesn’t matter to God. God also does not care one bit about ministry. It is OK if a preacher gets married to a caterer. That’s fine with God. There is nothing in the bible that says your ministries have to “complement each other". The bible clearly teaches that although we have a diversity of ministries, it’s all one Spirit (1 Cor 12:4-6). In other words, any forms of Christian ministry will automatically complement each other, you don’t have to fret over that.

This is why it is first important to express our desire for a mate, to GOD, and then ask for confirmations from the LORD before making a life long commitment. It isn't necessary to have everything in common, but having Christ in common makes it that much easier for God to be glorified as two people enter into a covenant with an understanding of the biblical explanation of the husband and wife's roles within the marriage.

Saying that everyone has the right to fall in love with anyone they choose, would not be an accurate statement. Simply because we are physically capable of expressing love through gestures, displays of affection, and sexual indulgences, we must ask ourselves if we should. Sometimes your own baggage can become a filter, through which, you view the world around you, and create relationships, having nothing to do with GOD. Deal with the baggage first and then choose, with GOD's guidance.